A Cambridge couple Liz and Nate, who retired at the age of 30 and a Noblesville couple Holly and Greg who are living their dream by being frugal are great role models for anyone who wants to get out of debt and build a life that reflects their values.
Incidentally both these couples were in the corporate lifestyle and realized at a point that they were living someone else’s dream. Unlike most of us who are so trapped in the conveniences of the regular life, they actually took action. As Liz says, one has to have a plan, a vision of being free and work towards it with all seriousness. Both the couples talk about the importance of getting out of debt. Debt is the biggest hurdle to independence. They take their pride not in the possessions that they have but in the fact that they can do what they want.
Sure, they are proud of the fact that they have not bought clothes for month and they are driving old dingy vehicles. The pride comes because of the vision of freedom that is overriding. They know that these superficial things do not really matter for them. They would rather be free to live the life they want than to buy the latest iphone.
You can read their adventures at the well maintained sites of Liz and Nate(Frugalwoods) and Holly and Greg(ClubThrifty).
In an interesting new book Wisdom of frugality – why less is more – more or less, Emrys Westacott philosophises about why the ancient philosopher and sages advocated frugality as the road to wisdom. So the pull between the pursuit of riches and the desire to do with less is not a modern phenomenon as we think, it is there from the old ages.
Emrys Westacott, who is a philosophy professor with Alfred University in New York runs a course on Tightwaddery, that was named one of the hottest classes by the Daily Beast. Professor Westacott thinks that frugality is our only alternative to become environmentally more conscious. He also thinks that a frugal life is more meaningful than the one that follow a path of mindless hedonism and conscpicuous consumption.
The course description says, “The basic idea underlying much of contemporary life and culture is: Spend money and you’ll be happy. This is a lie perpetrated by capitalists who want us to buy their products. This seminar will prove its falsity both in theory and in practice. On a theoretical level, we will consider how living frugally benefits your mind, your body, your relationships, your community, and the environment. On a practical level, we will examine personal spending habits, sharpen bargain-hunting, rip-off-detecting, and haggling skills, make field trips to yard sales and thrift shops, and prepare a class banquet for less than $10. At bottom, though, the course is less concerned with cutting coupons than with the question Socrates asked long ago: What is the good life for a human being?”
The class tracks the expenses of all the students, recommends ways to buy more for less and focuses on tracking all the expenses rigorously. The tightwaddery book list contains the usual suspects like the classic “Your money or your life” and some less well known ones like “Living well on practically nothing”.
In conclusion, both the book and the class website is a mine of information on the philosophical basis of a frugal lifestyle. It argues that frugality is not the last option but is a better option for people who may have enough.
It is a common experience that any goal set by one is not enough when achieved. In fact when comes closer to the goal, instead of feeling happy or even thrilled that you achieved what you set out to do, our minds start thinking the reason why that goal was not the right one in the first place. In fact, we do not need to see goal directed phenomenon to understand the attitude of “not enough”. When we compare ourselves with our forefathers who lived some decades or centuries back, we see that what they thought was “luxury” is thought of us as “ordinary”. And still we do not feel like the rich of the yesteryears.
It is not important why this happens. What is important is to think about how we can overcome this phenomenon to feel more satisfied in life. One of the key reasons why this happens is that we compare ourselves with the people we see regularly including out relatives and friends. We try and average out the “perceived hedonistic level” of those people and mark our “better” with that level. Of course, this is a dynamic excercise and is bound to cause a lot of anxiety due to its changing nature, subjective evaluation and lack of transparent numbers for comparison. People are continuously stressed about “Keeping up with the Joneses”.
How do we tone down the desire in us to compare and put our life in hands of the people that surround us? How do we decide our consumption based on what is meaningful and enough for us? It indeed is a tough question and even tougher to implement in real life. It requires one to be comfortable with oneself and not associate one’s self-esteem with what one has. When one decouples one’s identity with the objects that one possesses, one has the hope of becoming free of the bondage of comparison.
Of course, this is not easy and that is why most of the people who choose such a lifestyle try to find out other people who are doing the same. By seeing other people going through the same challenges, one gains strength emotionally and creative ways of leading such a life intellectually. So if you are interested in becoming free, try and find out people who can help you do so. These people could be on the internet, in the books they have written or some meetup that happens in your city. By seeing one’s ideals reflected in the world, one’s conviction grows.